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@thenamelessnarcissist It's such a heartbreaking catch 22, you want someone to care enough to really see you, to crack you open and really feel you and yet it can also be one of your biggest fears, hence spending so much time in performance. You believe you cannot be loved for who you really are. The constant struggle to ever know who you truly are as well will create those constant barriers between you and those who do care about you. It's an extremely isolating and painful condition, I always called it the heartbreak disorder. This one hit really hard. I feel you. Keep your lovely chin up! ❤️

You will feel like nobody knows you if you constantly struggle to know yourself, never letting the walls down means you stay lost into this loop. You are always real, you never stop mattering. Sending love to you! ❤️ I hope you find your peace my friend. 🙏❤️

Empathy is not a burden. It is how all that is good in your life, was invented.

I saw my mom cry at my uncles funeral and I was choking back tears couldn’t even talk cause I knew it would come out shaky

I think in 2024 everyone who lives in a big city and goes out basically have to be a psychopath.. or have some traits. Isn't as taboo as it was some decades ago

Wow, I can see it in his eyes. My kids' father has those same eyes. It took me back cause I can see a man I have most definitely separated myself from.

You’re bored? Deal with it! But don’t mess with people. People are not your toys.

Not feeling anything doesn’t exclude you from the norms.

Obviously people work for their own good, but in order to live in society one must respect rules. I can cheat you easily but I don’t do it simply because it goes against the rules. You all three geniuses are waiting to get caught and deal with harsh consequences.

I have been watching your channel for a while now and you should be so very proud of yourself for this particular post. I could see your internal struggle to try say the truth as opposed to what you wanted to be the truth, it looked so painful and uncomfortable for you. My wife suffers NPD but is unaware, I know shes aware of it to some degree but I don’t think she knows it’s NPD and she’s just a victim of her childhood trauma. Your channel has helped me understand her so much better and I thank you for that. My wife is also violent with me, when she goes into narcissistic rage (I want to touch on that with you at the end of this post) she is physically abusive and there’s no stopping her. I wondered if you’d ever experienced violent lashing out like that. In one of your earlier posted videos you addressed the term “narcissistic abuse” and how you didn’t like that term used to describe it cos abuse is abuse right, narcissist or not and I agree and understand where your coming from but I just wanted to say that for someone that’s been on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse it is very different from I guess just normal abuse. In my experience narcissistic abuse is so much more traumatising, they go to another place and their eyes completely change, well it’s more the way they are looking at you completely changes and when I would see that happen that’s when she was in narcissistic rage as opposed to just abuse. There’s no stopping her when that happens, no matter how much I’m crying and begging her to stop, it doesn’t matter whose around at the time or if we are in public or home she rages regardless. The only thing you can do is leave, get away from her and it ends. When a person with NPD rages it’s completely different to when a person without NPD abuses you ….

I went no contact for 3 years and the emails wont stop. I now need a restraining order. Fly ti barcelona to get the police involved. Why doesn’t he get it?

Your psychiatrist ghosted you ?? That’s messed up. Hope it works out.

They stalk my social media and attempt contact even years later. I'm engaged to a loving fiance, that doesn't matter to them. They still believe they have you.

Eh- erm- sorry? I mean, it's hard to live life with that but uh, idk

The thing with virtue and humility is that you don't achieve them one day, you make a choice to embody them every living moment until the very end, and you stick to that choice with no hopes for any other form of reward or validation. They are the reward in themselves. Nothing more.

Take care of youself, you do have emotions that are real, you did good work, keep working on youself...good bless you.

This was surprisingly helpful

Hes a fraud. Narcissism isnt real. Its all apart of autism and they have helped humanity tremendously and are why we got this point in time.

I guess for me, I really relate to the ‘my ribs could be crushed in’ feeling. It always puts the image of a dead leaf to mind, fully browned and wrapped around an air pocket. How easily you could crush that in your hand is about how my upper torso feels. That’s emptiness. Recently my emotional numbness has increased dramatically, and instead of empty I feel ‘full’. And yeah it is full of flesh. But probably even moreso considering it doesn’t feel like there’s space for lungs etc. I never feel empty, but the energy of emotions is gone entirely, so it’s like a deadness inside. This has made me wonder if emptiness is actually itself an emotion rather than a lack of them despite how it seems. Perhaps it just takes the place of other emotions by being so all encompassing?

We all do it, it’s a human thing

The letter should not be seen as a mistake or a source of shame, in spite of it being strewn with protective pride and cynicism. It was a deeply meaningful expression of what the abandoned boy craves more than anything, which is for someone to rescue him from his predicament. It implores someone to actually care and break his curse... but there is only one person who can change the course of fate and that's the writer of the story being told.

Why does hurting people make you feel like you’re not alone ??

why do they ghost us and pretend they like u..

Don't forget that you acknowledge and take accountability of your narcississtic traits - which usually is denied. I am sorry for what happened to you and hope that things are better now. keep going, and thank you for sharing. No, you are not disgusting. I've been dealing with a narcissist and it helps me to see that you managed to realize it and that you are trying to figure it out. I believe that you are strong and that you will heal

Bc you need to go deeper and heal your shit... thats why you experience most of this... bc you're fucking aware.. you obviously hold yourself accountable, if you hold yourself accountable there can be change!!!

Stop touching your hair it’s irritating and shows conceit

im probably a sociopath because i dislike 99% of people.

❤so which one stays more i your mind, the emotional affair or the physical? It sounds like the emotional one you were really in love with. And that happens why? The physical one was cuz you wanted to punish, and the emotional one?

Could you find romance w/ a sociopath? Asking for an npd and sociopath who began a relationship. I was jilted by npd for a sociopath w/ rotten teeth and unkempt. I don’t get it. Dies a sociopath have some weird magical wand

Video suggestion: Narcissists and blackmail

My question is: Do narcissist always discard? I been married to him 14 years and something is changing. Do some of them NOT do a discard? Not they I don’t wish he would cause my life would totally be better! Plus I’m getting the silent treatment as we speak. Been happening all day, not a freakin word. God only knows how long it will last this time.

Ok maybe I don’t have the disorder but I have many tendencies and I disassociate for days where I’m just in my special little world

Has Ketamine been tried in NPD?

1. I can't relate to this one. I do feel the need to perform sometimes (born with ADHD) but whether I have that sense of contempt is dependant on if i like the person who is coming to me. 2. Yes and no. Logically and hypothetically, yes, humans have equal value. However in practice in our society, you are only as useful as what you can do. A person gains value by being smarter than another, prettier, stronger, wealthier, etc 3. Honestly? No. Im in my early 30s and in the past i hated myself and felt like a loser. People told me I was so smart and yet my grades suffered. 5 years ago I went back to school and got a bachelor's degree and was a straight A student while working a full time job. I nearly went insane but i felt so fulfilled. I was finally getting love and praise from my family and others. Now that I'm out of school i cling to my past achievements and use them as ammo to fuel my entitlement for why i should be wealthy. I'm smart. A hard worker, and basically a beauty queen on top of it. The world should be on their knees to have me associate with their workplace/university. I've never gotten a diagnosis before but I definately have some cluster B traits.

Thank you so much, Jacob. I can 100% relate to everything you saud here. I have BPD and lots of covert narcissist traits. Thank you for your honesty ❤

Thank you... mine always tells me he has options. I don't get jelly, but he does, " supposedly." I get mad because if I did the same to him, he would insult me none stop.

Perfect. He did all of it. When I told my family he just want me to beg him not to leave, they told me I am crazy.

Hey Jacob, can you do a video on how you view pets and animals? Have you ever had one? Can narcissists love/bond with pets?

For me it was because I had spent so much time in my head doing the thing that I had not actually done that it was like I did it. Sometimes I would lie and I didn't even make the connection that I was lying. Like I knew I had not done the thing I said I was doing, but in my mind I was so involved in it that it didn't matter. I remember making up lies as a kid to an inflate my sense of self, but the lies became so real that they might as well have been true. I lived them in my head. And all of the lies I ever told was to set up and establish something in a relationship with others. And that justified the lie to me. These weren't conscious thoughts. I didn't actually say to myself that I was going to lie. I just would find myself telling these lies almost like a creative person who is acting or singing a song that didn't really happen to them. Because I wanted to affect the audience. I wanted the person I was interacting with to get a certain feeling about me that I couldn't accomplish just by saying... Feel this way about me. So would tell them a lie about my life and that would alter their perception of me in the way that I wanted. In the way that I needed. It was also some form of survival. Without that connection, I would feel isolated and alone. So I needed to tell the lie to get the response from the other person.

Thanks for sharing

That's anti hero

Being totally seen and loved is the most beautiffull thing that coult ever happen to someone.

the examples you give, ideal!

For me its just hard to know if my narc situationship is consciously doing hurtful things or not. Always feel a bit paranojd about that

I proud of you for trying to break to the unhealthy behavioral pattern this disorder brings with it and that youre lookibg to reconnect/heal your inner child. Grew up with a covert narc dad and a peacemaker (enabling for the sake of family peace) mom. Dont know what the hell I really have...just know something is off as I cant let my walls down or have any relationship thats not just superficial. And its a lonely existence. I get my self esteem/value only over looks, achievments, talent and when people find me funny/likeable. But Im constantly having very harsh judgmental thoughts in my head about myself, how I speak and what I do. Also feel like people judge me (when theyre probably not) and then secretly feel contempt for them in that moment. Really trying to be a good person....like Id actually rather describe myself as peopke pleaser/door mat person wirh narc traits. Like I feel bad for people very often and override my own needs/wands in order to not disappoint them. No idea what the f that means is up with me....but regardless of label. I just finally wanna be happy and be able to build genuine, lasting relationships. Cause f material things...at the end of the day human connection is what brings lasting happyness :( Wish you well on your journey. Youre insprirational!!

It's agonising right now to be ticking off alot of these traits in myself.

Jesus can heal all these “diagnoses”.

I can't be empathetic any more, particularly after how my ex treated me: Narcissists are manipulative arseholes.

Not to mention the very likely childhood/relational trauma you had to endure to develop such a personality disorder... (not a narcissist but my dad is so I'm very close to the subject)

If a narcissist doesn’t value the truth then why do they hate being lied to?